What nitty gritty, sloppy subject – right? But it has to be talked about sometimes, because I know that not everybody feels happy with themselves. So I wanted to write this post to tell you that it’s okay because you’re not alone. We all experience feeling unconfident and wishing that we could change parts of our body or personality – which is okay. But sometimes you have to let go of some of those things and be a bit kinder to yourself.
Our minds are delicate lil’ things, and if we treat them unfairly then they start to get all tangled up and spiral out of control. We should be looking after our amazingly CRAZY brains because if not, we will start to decline in happiness. Self love and self care is the key to happiness and confidence – which I don’t always have a lot of.
Talking about me…I have found it extremely hard coping with the changes of my own body and appearance. I’ve always wished to look slightly differently in ways in which I won’t go into. But I have only now learnt to stop being to hard on myself and to ease my way through this. If you’re a teenager like myself, you’re gonna be going through some tough shit at the moment, and you should know that you’re not the only one! It’s not easy, but it can be easy if you try to accept these changes and realise that you won’t look this exact way forever. Our bodies are constantly changing (which is horrible) but it means that in the future you won’t look a thing like your 13 year old self. That’s the way I look at it, and I look forward to it.
But in the meantime, whilst you’re waiting for your ‘drastic change’ – whether that is coming out the other side of puberty (yup I said it), or a surgical change, you must look after yourself. Self care is so important for a happy mindset. As is learning to love yourself, you can develop all of the sassy confidence in the world.
Ways to care for and love yourself:
- Stop looking at social media and comparing your life to others. Remember what you see on Facebook and Instagram are carefully manufactured snapshots of people’s ideal lives, not their reality. We only post the nicest picture out of 100, along with a fancy filter, on the sunniest day, in the most photogenic surroundings. We also look at and idolise celebrities, who have far more resources to make themselves look fabulous (e.g. stylists, personal trainers, sponsorship deals etc.). There’s no point comparing your life to theirs.
- Stop constantly looking in the mirror and picking flaws in yourself. Us human beans are sooo guilty of this. That is NOT why a mirror was invented! If you’re going to look in a mirror, tell yourself this: “I am beautiful” and “you look great today”. The more you tell yourself these things, the more you’ll believe them. We all come in different shapes and sizes, and we are all beautiful. Being thinner, or taller, or curvier will NOT make you happier! You need to learn to love and accept the way you are.
- Exercise more. It relieves stress and worries by releasing positive endorphins (happy hormones) in your body. You’ll feel better inside and out, and may well see some changes in your body that you like and can be proud of. You don’t need to join a gym, just walking instead of getting the bus, or doing home workouts, which I love!
- Treat ya’ll self to some fancy jewellery or makeup. No money can’t buy you happiness, but it can make you feel slightly better about yourself, if used in the correct way. Are clothes the one thing that is bringing your confidence down? Does choosing an outfit stress you out because you feel like nothing suits you? Then give up on the clothes and gift yourself with some jewellery or makeup to make yourself feel nice. Jewellery Box is an AMAZING, affordable brand that recently reached out to me to share some of my lovely jewellery with you all. They are all such lovely pieces (as you can see from the photos) and are great quality. When I put nice makeup on and jewellery, it makes me feel special and important, no matter what I’m wearing. So why not do the same and take a look at their website HERE.
- Have a positive mindset, stop focussing on the negatives in life. Compliment yourself more than you do now, tell yourself everything will be okay in the end. Because it will. I think it’s so easy to live in that exact moment and see no way out of the dark cloud that you’re in, but it does get better along the way – with a bit of self care and love.
I realised that being a teen with problems of my own, maybe I could help just maybe one of you feel like you’re not alone. Our generation is one of the hardest ones to grow up in, I think. But because we have the power or social media we should use it to our advantage and support each other. I hope you enjoyed this post, remember you are ALL wonderful, beautiful lil’ beans and we are all in this together.
*Disclamer – Jewellery Box kindly gifted me with the jewellery in this blog post, however all opinions are my own!*